Love is my favorite subject and over the years, I’ve had countless conversations with women around the world about the subject. Many stories were of heartbreak, but it was the tales of triumph that I carried with me and told myself over and over. I fully credit these bits of advice for helping me find my love. How about you?
“I was with a really bad guy and then I finally fought my way out of the relationship. Soon after, the most wonderful man came into my life. He is now my husband and we are so happy together.”-Hadas, Tel Aviv 2008
This one is simple enough, right? Love can’t find you if you’re hiding in a bad relationship.
Wait, It’s Worth It
“My whole family was worried about poor cousin Dara. She was in her late 30’s and she still hadn’t met anyone. They all though she was being too picky. Then she met Barry. We all love Barry and her first son was born the following year.-Hillary, New York 2013
Is it more important to make everyone else feel better or to make sure you live your happiest life? People are going to talk no matter what so do you.
Love Doesn’t Have a “Look”
“Do you think my husband is the guy I imagined myself with? I used to date professional basketball players! He’s not what I imagined at all, but the day we got married was the happiest of my life.”-Yolanda, New York 2014
Obsessing about types, looks and expectations is a trap that might make you miss the gem your heart really wants.
You Just Know
“I asked my mother how she knew Dad was the right one for her and she said, “You just know.”
“But how do you know?” I asked
“If you have to ask that question, then you already have your answer” she replied.-Deirdre, Tokyo 2003
If your gut keeps saying I don’t know, believe it!
Love Isn’t Enough
“When it comes to building a family and life together, you need to have common goals and visions. How will you manage money? Who will wash the dishes? Do you want to have children. If you want a relationship long term, these visions need to align because love alone isn’t enough.-Kathleen, Boston, 2012
Love can only pull so much weight in a relationship. It’s a great place to start, but if the rest doesn’t add up, maybe the relationship isn’t meant to be anything more than a beautiful moment and that’s ok.
Have you heard any of these bits of advice before?
Have you received any other love advice that you found particularly wise?